Idealized Expectations During the Holidays One of the biggest concerns on many people’s minds at this time of the year is how to survive the holidays. Sure, in the popular media there are depictions of families happily gathering together in a cozy setting to enjoy very special time together. Increasingly, however, those images are being […]
Low Self-Esteem, Fear of Rejection and Lack of Intimacy: Three Common Sources of Relationship Problems
These three common issues: low self-esteem, fear of rejection and lack of intimacy seem to constellate in many relationships and often cause subtle, gradual but very significant damage to the relationship. They can act quietly, like an undiagnosed illness in the background – eating away at the fabric of the relationship. Often, what is left is bickering and fighting – which may actually be an unconscious attempt at establishing some form of intimacy – even if it is a negative way (better than not at all!).
While there are many issues which can cause relationship problems for a couple, we explore one in particular. This problem underlies many, perhaps even most of the other issues.
Have you ever wondered why being in a relationship is so hard? We are going to explore 10 important factors. But, first let’s start with a metaphor. I wake up in the morning and decide to check my email. Sometimes my computer drops the connection with my router; it is confused by the signals of all of
Listening is one of the most important skills in having, maintaining and growing your relationship. Given our cultural references of people shouting at and over each other in our entertainment and political spheres, it seems like a brush-up might be useful. What Listening is a Chance to: learn what is on the other person’s mind
Is this you? You are in a relationship for over a year, and now you feel anger, disappointment, resentment, and stress? It all seemed to be going great. Your partner is fun and attractive. Why aren’t things going as they should? There can be several reasons, here are the top 5: Communication (or really, lack
Using the image of concentric rings as a metaphor to understand the variety of relationships in which we participate. Different ‘rings’ have different requirements and different expectations. This idea can help us navigate expectations and feelings in relationships.
Pixar’s new film “Inside Out” seems to be creating quite the stir in the therapy community. Most clinicians in our field tend to agree that the movie provides very accurate and useful information about emotions in a way that is accessible and entertaining. It tells the story of a young girl, Riley, and the characters