by Director | Aug 12, 2017 | Couple, Intimacy, Relationships, Self-Esteem |
These three common issues: low self-esteem, fear of rejection and lack of intimacy seem to constellate in many relationships and often cause subtle, gradual but very significant damage to the relationship. They can act quietly, like an undiagnosed illness in the...
by Director | Jul 19, 2017 | Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Relationships |
You might be wondering, what is the biggest relationship problem couples face? After over 25 years doing couples therapy, I can tell you what I have seen. Before I do that, what would be your guess? What Do You Think are the Biggest Relationship Issues?...
by Director | May 30, 2017 | Career, Change, Conflict, Stress |
Recently, a friend told me about a book she is reading. Apparently, the gist of the book is that technology is changing so rapidly, it is causing stress to most people in our society. She asked me if I see this in my clinical practice. (I would like to outline and...
by Director | May 29, 2017 | Anxiety, Freud |
Anxiety comes from a number of possible sources. It is most often thought of as a recognition by the mind (either consciously or unconsciously) of danger. If a task of the mind and body is keeping one safe, this makes perfect sense. Even a tiger in a cage might...
by Director | Apr 5, 2017 | Acculturation, Attachment, Immigration |
On this twentieth anniversary of her passing, this reflection on immigration is dedicated to my grandmother. Mi Abuelita and Immigration My grandmother migrated from Central America in her twenties. Coming from privilege, she was unprepared for the hostility to...
by Director | Sep 8, 2016 | Attachment, Child Development, Development, Freud, Intimacy |
Freud was reportedly asked about the definition of psychological health. His reported response was for a person to be able to love and to work. Some authors state this was more or less a throw away answer. However, Freud worked with enough patients to know what he...
by Director | Aug 26, 2016 | Attachment, Communication, Couple, Intimacy, Marriage, Relationships |
Have you ever wondered why being in a relationship is so hard? We are going to explore 10 important factors. But, first let’s start with a metaphor. I wake up in the morning and decide to check my email. Sometimes my computer drops the connection with my router;...
by Director | Aug 10, 2016 | Insight, Unconscious |
Many people think that if they have a friend who will listen to them, and perhaps offer advice that is the same as having a therapist. So why is it that your friend and your therapist are not the same? Here are ten important differences: Ok, here is the...
by Director | Aug 8, 2016 | Uncategorized |
As therapists, we are professional listeners. How would you like some tips from the pros on how to improve your listening skills and in the process, improve your relationship? Ready? 1. Be Willing to Spend Some Time (It’s Your Relationship!) If you really want...
by Director | Aug 6, 2016 | Communication, Emotional literacy, Relationships |
Listening is one of the most important skills in having, maintaining and growing your relationship. Given our cultural references of people shouting at and over each other in our entertainment and political spheres, it seems like a brush-up might be useful. What...
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